A promise is a statement of intent which may or may not be actionable at the time it is made. It may include a time period. One entity tells another they will do a specific action. It may be asked for or volunteered. A penalty for not doing it may be included. Conditions may be included or not. It may be accepted by the person made to, or not.

      This writer knows of an individual whose pre birth agreements included marrying 3 women, each for 5 years. These agreements are promises. He married each one for 5 years. Then they divorced and he married the next.
Promises made. Promises kept.

      A promise may be private or public.

      When this writer's future father-in-law was heart attacked, she and his 20 year old son were given a cup of soup and a cheeseburger to share. As they finished eating, the son said "Now we are married." She asked "How so?" He said "Among my people, when 2 people eat from the same dish and drink out of the same cup, if they agree, they are married. She said "Ok". What better way to keep a man alive and make sure he completes his training, fulfilling her pre birth promise, than to marry him? Their marriage lasted 39 years, 6 months, 8 days, until his death. It began on a chartered bus in the presence of only 2 chaperones who had no idea what they were witnessing.

      Most such events occur with published announcements in a sacred place with many family and friends as witnesses.

      And many of these public events begin with a simple meeting of 2 hearts agreeing to love each other, often before birth, but not always. Relationships are often entered with a promise. Other common promises are agreeing to enter into a parent child relationship or be siblings, co-workers, adversaries, etc.

      Why are we often challenged in fulfilling a promise?

      We see the ideal first. We recognize the value, the good we are seeing. Whether we see the full implications of entering into a specific relationship varies. This depends on our training, our purpose, and the values we accept as our own.

      Each time we incarnate as a human, we are trained in the local norms and customs. This forms our behaviors and expectations. As we mature, we learn to modify our selves as we chose our paths. Our choices are influenced by our dreams, training and our feedback loops.

      When we do an action, we get positive and/or negative results. Our liking or disliking the feelings we get from these reactions influences whether we repeat these actions.

      It is useful to regularly examine our reactions to daily events and modify ourselves to have more acceptable reactions, more in line with our goals.

      Since we commonly prefer doing actions which make us feel good, it is considered wise to train self in doing activities which enable feeling good. It is also a known preference that we avoid activities which cause not so good feelings. This is a primary reason why we don't do what we have decided we wish to do - we don't feel like it.

      When faced with a secondary choice, do we remember our promise? Many do. Parents remember to care for our children. Mates remember to care for each other. We put another's need before our own provided this does not interfere with our own ability to function. We all know the advice to put on one's own mask or safety vest before attempting to assist another.

      There are those, however, who would have us distracted with other concerns which suit their purposes to the detriment of ours. It is our responsibility to see this by regularly examining how we are fulfilling our own objectives, including all promises and obligations we have agreed to undertake.

      Keep promises. If we make a purchase "on time," i.e., using credit, we promise to make regular payments. Buying more items than we can pay for breaks this promise. If we tell a family member we will attend an event but then work OT or get drunk, this breaks a promise. It is our secondary choices which may interfere with our promises. It is up to us how clear we keep the path to keeping our promises. This should be considered when making a promise.

      Another factor in keeping promises is the cooperation or lack thereof from others. Some ask us to do things that they have no intention of allowing to happen. This is a common tactic of scammers. These promises cannot be kept and we must not expect ourselves to do so. As soon as we recognize the impossibility, we must forgive self for not seeing it sooner and let it go. Be grateful that we can see true now.

      Scammers may pretend they are someone they are not. Making a promise in the name of anothe is not only a boldface lie, it endangers the common good. Supporting such actions is akin to treason. Falsely claiming to give us something of value in exchange for our doing something for them benefits no one. When the promised actions do not materialize, there may be a claim that we do not trust as we see the reality. Do we fool self or see true? Our choice.

      On the other hand, we may help others in keeping their promises. This benefits the whole community. Lives built on the keeping of promises enrich all, raising energy levels leads to ever increasing highs. Promises give us goals to aim for and hope for the future. They foster cooperation which builds unity based in love.

      Our choice.

      When e'er you make a promise, consider well its importance, and when made,
      engrave it upon your heart. . . . . Girl Scout song (prior to 1950s).

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